BUILDING CONFIDENCE AFTER SETBACKS AT WORK
Most of us, at some point in our professional lives, experience a dip in confidence. Whether it’s missing out on a promotion, being made redundant, not passing a professional qualification, or struggling to keep pace with change at work, it’s understandable to feel unsettled.
When things don’t go as planned, it can be hard to keep perspective. But if you’re feeling flat, uncertain or disconnected from your usual sense of ability, you’re far from alone, and it doesn’t mean you’ve lost your value!
We regularly speak with people who are navigating these exact situations. Here are a few thoughts that might help if you're in that place right now.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
You might be feeling frustrated, embarrassed, or simply just stuck. It’s a normal response, especially when you care about your work. A change in team structure, a new system rolled out without much support, or not securing a role you worked hard for can all affect how you see yourself professionally.
Taking a moment to acknowledge those feelings, without judgement, can be a helpful starting point.
You’re Not Defined by One Moment
A missed opportunity or difficult period doesn’t erase everything you’ve achieved. If you’ve recently been through redundancy, it can feel very personal, even when it isn’t. If you’ve failed an exam, that doesn’t mean you’re not capable. And if someone else got promoted, it doesn’t mean your contribution isn’t valued.
In most cases, it’s about timing, context, or simply needing a bit more support, not a reflection of your worth.
Be Curious, Not Critical
If you feel able to, ask for feedback! Whether that’s on a promotion process, an exam result, or your recent performance. It’s a useful way to gather insight and consider any areas you might want to focus on. But be selective in what you take forward. Constructive feedback can help you grow, but harsh self-criticism rarely does.
Make Space for Small Wins
It’s easy to feel like you have to bounce back immediately, but progress doesn’t need to be dramatic. Sometimes it’s about regaining your footing. That might look like taking on a small project that plays to your strengths, reconnecting with a colleague who motivates you, or just getting clearer on what you want next.
Small steps are still steps!
You Don’t Have to Figure It Out Alone
There’s no rule that says you have to work through it all alone. Talking things through with someone, whether that be a friend, mentor, manager, or consultant, can often shift your mindset and help you see your options more clearly.
We’re always happy to have a conversation, even if you’re not actively looking for a new role. Sometimes having a sounding board is enough to restore a bit of clarity and confidence.
If You’re Feeling Stuck, You’re Not the Only One
Careers don’t follow straight lines. They include pauses, pivots, slow patches and sharp turns. Confidence will come and go; it’s a natural part of that journey. But with the right support and a bit of breathing room, you can absolutely find your rhythm again.